Attachment style quiz

This attachment style quiz has 12 questions and takes about 3 minutes. It scores attachment anxiety and avoidance and shows which of four styles fits you best: secure, anxious, avoidant or fearful-avoidant. It is for entertainment only.

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Please think of how you usually feel in close relationships, with a current or past partner. Choose how well each statement describes you.

  1. I often worry that my partner does not love me as much as I love them.
  2. I am not comfortable telling my partner how I really feel.
  3. I feel uneasy when my partner is slow to reply.
  4. When my partner wants to be closer, I want to pull back.
  5. I worry that my partner will leave me.
  6. I can rely on my partner when I need to.
  7. I need my partner to show me often that they care.
  8. When I have a problem, I prefer to deal with it alone rather than involve my partner.
  9. I rarely worry about being left.
  10. Being too close to someone makes me uncomfortable.
  11. I feel uneasy when my partner gets close to other people.
  12. I find it easy to show my partner love and to say what I need.

Result

Your result and its explanation will appear here after you answer all 12 questions.

About this quiz

  • The questions were written by this website. They follow the two dimensions often used in research on adult attachment: anxiety and avoidance. The quiz is for self-reflection and entertainment. It is not a psychological assessment.
  • Each answer scores 1 to 5. Questions 6, 9 and 12 are scored in reverse. Each dimension has 6 questions and its score is their average, from 1 to 5. A score above 3 counts as high.
  • Low anxiety and low avoidance is secure; high anxiety only is anxious; high avoidance only is avoidant; both high is fearful-avoidant.

Scoring

  • Attachment anxiety: How much you worry about being rejected or left. A higher score means you need more reassurance from your partner.
  • Attachment avoidance: How uncomfortable you are with closeness and depending on others. A higher score means you keep more distance and prefer to cope alone.
ResultMeaning
SecureYou are comfortable being close and also with having your own space. You trust the relationship and rarely worry about being left.
AnxiousYou want closeness but often worry that your partner does not care enough. You feel uneasy when they seem distant and need reassurance.
AvoidantYou value independence and prefer to handle problems alone. When your partner wants more closeness, you feel uncomfortable and keep your distance.
Fearful-avoidantYou want closeness but fear getting hurt. You pull away when things get close, then worry about losing the person.